If you're new to toys, the choice can feel overwhelming. The good news: you don't need anything complicated. The best first toys are simple, body-safe and easy to control. These are the pieces we'd honestly suggest starting with.
What makes a good first toy?
- Simple controls — a button or two, a few settings.
- Body-safe materials such as silicone or ABS — see our materials guide.
- Gentle lowest setting, so you can start soft.
- Easy to clean.
- Not too big. You can always size up later.
Best first toy for solo exploring: a bullet
The Serein Bullet Vibrator is small, focused and USB rechargeable. It's ideal for learning what kind of pressure and rhythm you enjoy — and it travels well. Read 10 ways to use a bullet.
Best for something different: a suction toy
If direct vibration feels like too much, the Aurelia Suction Vibrator uses gentle air pulses instead — a sensation many people find more natural. Learn how suction toys work.
Best first toy for couples: a vibrating ring
The Élan Vibrating Couples' Ring is soft, stretchy and simple: both partners feel the vibration during sex. Read cock rings explained.
The essential add-on: lube
Lube makes everything more comfortable. A water-based formula like plusOne Aloe Glide is compatible with silicone toys and latex condoms. See our lube guide.
Best value: a starter set
The First Blush Box brings together a bullet, a soft silicone toy, lube and a satin mask — four beginner-friendly pieces for less than buying them separately. If you'd like to try a few sensations without guessing, it's the easiest place to start.
What to skip at first
- Very large or very powerful toys — start gentle.
- Toys without a listed material.
- Anal toys without a flared base — never use them. If you're curious about anal play, read our beginner's guide first.
Still not sure? Our one-minute match quiz will point you in the right direction, or read how to choose your first vibrator.
Quick answers
What should I buy as my first sex toy?
A simple bullet or suction toy plus a water-based lube — or a curated starter set like The First Blush Box if you'd like to try a few sensations.
Are sex toys safe?
Choose body-safe, non-porous materials, clean toys before and after use, use a compatible lube, and only use toys with a flared base for anal play.
How discreet is delivery?
Every order is overboxed in a plain outer mailer with a neutral sender name, and your bank statement shows a discreet name.
