Lube is one of the simplest ways to make intimacy more comfortable and more pleasurable — solo, with a partner, or with toys. But the type you choose matters, especially when toys or condoms are involved. Here's a clear breakdown.
Why use lube at all?
Natural lubrication varies with mood, hormones, hydration, medication, the menstrual cycle and plenty more. Lube reduces friction, which makes touch, toys and penetration more comfortable and can reduce the chance of small tears and irritation. It's not a sign that anything is "wrong" — it's simply a helpful tool.
Water-based lube
Best for: almost everything — especially silicone toys and condoms.
- Compatible with silicone toys and latex condoms.
- Easy to wash off skin, toys and sheets.
- Can dry out over time — just add a little more, or a splash of water to reactivate it.
If you only buy one lube, make it a good water-based one. plusOne Aloe Glide is water-based with organic aloe, pH-balanced, and free from parabens, glycerin, silicone and oil. It's compatible with silicone toys and latex condoms (note: the manufacturer says it is not compatible with polyurethane condoms).
Silicone-based lube
Best for: long-lasting glide, shower and bath play, and massage.
- Lasts much longer than water-based lube and doesn't absorb into skin.
- Works with latex condoms.
- Not recommended with silicone toys — it can bond with the toy's surface and damage it over time.
- Needs soap and water to wash off.
Oil-based lube
Best for: external massage and solo play without condoms.
- Rich, long-lasting feel.
- Breaks down latex condoms, making them more likely to fail. Don't combine oil with latex.
- Can be harder to clean from fabrics and may not suit everyone's intimate health.
Hybrid lube
Hybrids blend water and a small amount of silicone for a longer-lasting glide that washes off more easily. Check the label for toy and condom compatibility — the silicone content means some brands don't recommend them with silicone toys.
Compatibility cheat sheet
- Silicone toys: water-based ✓ · silicone-based ✗ · oil-based — check the toy's care instructions
- Glass, metal and ABS toys: all lube types work
- Latex condoms: water-based ✓ · silicone-based ✓ · oil-based ✗
When in doubt, always follow the instructions that come with your toy and your condoms.
How much lube should you use?
Start with a small amount — around a coin-sized drop — and add more whenever things start to feel less smooth. With toys, apply lube to the toy rather than only to your body. There's no prize for using less.
What to avoid in a lube
- Strong fragrances and flavours can irritate sensitive skin.
- "Warming" or "tingling" ingredients aren't for everyone — patch-test first.
- Very high glycerin content can bother some people prone to irritation.
If you notice burning, itching or irritation, stop using the product and speak to a healthcare provider if it continues.
Our recommendation
Keep a water-based lube by the bed and you're covered for nearly every situation. plusOne Aloe Glide is included in several of our Blush Boxes, including The First Blush Box, and it pairs perfectly with silicone toys like the Amour Silicone Dildo.
Quick answers
Can I use silicone lube with silicone toys?
It isn't recommended. Silicone-based lube can bond with the surface of silicone toys and damage it over time, so use a water-based lube instead.
Is oil-based lube safe with condoms?
No. Oil breaks down latex condoms and makes them more likely to fail. Water-based and silicone-based lubes are latex-safe.
Why does water-based lube dry out?
It absorbs into skin and evaporates over time. Simply add a little more, or a few drops of water to reactivate it.
