There's something exciting about handing someone else the controls. Remote-controlled toys add surprise, anticipation and a sense of play — whether you're in the same room or just across the sofa.
How remote toys work
A remote toy pairs with a small handheld controller, so one person can change the intensity or pattern while the other enjoys the sensation. Two of ours come with a remote:
- The Liaison Remote-Controlled Plug — soft silicone, USB rechargeable, with cordless vibration.
- The Aurelia Suction Vibrator — suction and vibration with a remote, for external stimulation.
Agree on the rules first
The fun of remote play comes from trust. Before you start:
- Talk about what you're both curious about — and any limits.
- Agree on a simple signal for "stop" or "too much" that works even mid-moment.
- Decide who holds the remote, and for how long.
Our article on consent and safer intimacy is a good foundation.
Ideas to try at home
- Dinner and a surprise. Cook together while one partner quietly controls the toy.
- Movie night. Switch patterns at random during the film — no pausing allowed.
- Take turns. One evening each in control, then swap.
- Slow build. Start on the lowest setting and only increase when your partner asks.
- Add a blindfold. Not knowing when the next change is coming heightens everything — see sensory play for beginners.
Comfort and safety
- Use plenty of water-based lube, like plusOne Aloe Glide, especially for plugs.
- Anal toys must have a flared base. If you're new to anal play, read our beginner's guide first.
- Keep play private. Remote play is best enjoyed at home, where you're both relaxed and nobody else is involved.
- Charge before you begin and clean before and after.
Make it a set
The Duet Box pairs the Liaison remote plug with two couples' rings, soft rope and lube. Not sure what suits you both? Take the couples' toy quiz.
